When young people learn that sex will leave them tainted, how can they let go and experience pleasure as adults? Sex educator Erica Smith—the guest on this episode—has made that question the focus of her practice. Learn about the weird metaphors used by purity culture proponents (chewed gum! backwash!) and how it harms femmes and queer people. Plus: Gabrielle and Bobby talk about nude-sending strategy and why they love SUNDAZE and NŌS.