There’s no one act that can please every penis owner, but blowjobs are probably the closest thing. If you want to bring your partner to higher heights of pleasure, it helps to know the hottest techniques and use the hottest toys. Ashley Manta—the sex educator behind the CannaSexual® brand and our BLOW & GLOW video series—shares her expert tips below.
(Oh, and if you’re looking to please a vulva owner? Right this way: See our BJ tips for clits.)
- Take your time. Make this an experience. Seduce your partner's senses by lighting incense or candles, putting on music, and encouraging them to recline in a comfortable position. Have snacks like chocolate or fruit nearby, and plenty of water (hydration is important for the giver AND the receiver)! You could even make it like a spa treatment and wipe down their bits with a warm wet towel first, just to help them relax.
- Sucking is only a small part of a great blowjob. Use your tongue, your lips, your (well-lubed) hands, and playful eye contact to help your partner feel like you're worshipping their bits!
- Lube is your friend. Choose a nice, sugar-free flavored lube to stimulate saliva production and make the experience extra yummy!
- Vary speed, pressure, and motions. Unless they've specifically said something like "oh yes keep doing that exact thing!" keep switching to different angles and techniques to see which ones they like best. Encourage feedback and make adjustments accordingly.
- Don't stress about deep throating. Toys are excellent additions to a BJ and they can help mimic deep penetration sensations if your jaw or gag reflex aren't conducive to the real thing. The MANTA stroker adds a buzz to the base of the penis during your oral orchestrations, and NŌS intensifies sensation throughout the whole shaft. I like using both toys in a single session, which is why I’m so into the BLOW & GLOW kit. It includes NŌS, MANTA, and a bunch of fun extras for less than you’d pay for both toys individually.
- Spit/swallow are not your only options! You could get your partner close and then hop on top of them to finish things off, or grab a hand towel for them to blast off into, or, if you're into it, have them explode all over your favorite body part!
- Be present. This isn't just about their pleasure, it's about yours too—so if you're not into it, don't do it!
Ashley Manta is an award-winning sex educator and coach and has become a sought-after authority on mindfully combining sex and cannabis as part of her CannaSexual® brand. You can learn more about her at ashleymanta.com.
This post was written by a guest blogger, and all opinions and ideas expressed are that of the author. All ideas included are for educational and entertainment value, and do not constitute medical advice.