Let's talk love languages
If you’ve ever listened to a sex and relationships podcast, you’ve probably heard of them—the five styles of giving or receiving love, as named by author and marriage counselor Gary Chapman.While love languages can be used in touchy-feely ways, they can also be horny! That’s because knowing what you respond to is a key part of hot sex, whether partnered or solo.
So take our quiz below, find the name for what you like, and then do something nice for yourself. Like, really nice. Maybe with lube?
A. Spending a few hours on the couch, watching TV
B. Getting takeout from my favorite restaurant
C. Rereading nice texts and emails
D. Cleaning my house or apartment
E. Jerking off, honestly
2. What’s your perfect Sunday?
A. Barbecuing all day with my friends
B. Buying new clothes
C. Calling someone I love
D. Getting ahead on meal prep
E. Going for a massage
3. What was so great about your last steamy sex session with a partner?
A. I was in bed for hours
B. The lingerie, the toys, the silk sheets, the candles—the works
C. All that dirty talk
D. My partner put my pleasure first
E. My person’s hands on my body
4. What’s a good reward for doing something challenging?
A. A day off
B. A splurge
C. Praise
D. Delegating a to-do
E. Please just have sex with me
5. What’s pornographic that isn’t porn?
A. Seeing someone so much, you start dreaming about them
B. A babe sending drinks or dessert to your table
C. A compliment from a good-looking stranger
D. “I took care of that for you”
E. A casual-on-purpose, sitting-thigh-to-thigh situation
6. “The date was so-so, but at least I got __________”
A. A leisurely afternoon
B. These beautiful flowers
C. A sweet, thoughtful text exchange
D. That bug fixed on my phone
E. A hot makeout sesh
Add up your results, and you’ll have your love language!
MOSTLY A
quality time
If you care about someone, you want to see a lot of that person, and when you’re loving on yourself, you don’t like to rush. During solo play, spend a minute exploring different sensations and engaging different body parts for a bigger payoff.
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MOSTLY B
GIFTS
You feel pampered when you receive a thoughtful present, whether it’s from your S.O. or from yourself. Luxury items, like candles or an artfully designed toy, put you in the mood for FUN.
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MOSTLY C
Words of Affirmation
Your favorite people are the ones who lift you up in conversation, and the best sex for you involves lots of filthy language. Your sext game is unbeatable. Try reading erotic fiction to get in the mood.
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MOSTLY D
ACTS OF SERVICE
You like people who help you take care of business. The fastest way to your heart is through your to-do list. So, set yourself up for an amazing night in with a little prep: Clean and charge your toys, change your sheets, and wash your bathrobe or towel.
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MOSTLY E
PHYSICAL TOUCH
You’re a cuddler, a hand-holder, a hugger. For you, being touched affectionately is the ultimate way to connect. Next time you’re engaged in solo play, really be present with yourself and luxuriate in every touch.
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Want more? Watch this space.We’ll update this post throughout the month (aka Masturbation May) to spotlight each love language and how it can heat up solo play.
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